Your Either With Me Or Get Lost Mindset

Your Either With Me or Get Lost Mindset

If your trying to improve your life to reach your full potential – I have a mantra that I suggest that you follow, “Your either with me or get lost.”

“Your either with me or get lost” means anyone who enters your life – as a friend or romantic partner – you take the mentality that They Are Either With You on this journey of “life” meaning they are someone who genuinely supports your journey. They should want the best for you, just as you want the best for them. Otherwise they can Get Lost. [and not waste your time.]

Anyone who’s reached the pinnacle of seriousness, hunger and genuinely committed to improving their lives in every possible way will naturally come to know this. So it’s much better you start now. The sooner the better.  

Life is short, and you’ll waste valuable years hanging on to dead weights who prefer to gossip, bitch about their lives or constantly moaning about the government and do nothing to improve their lives. Or even worse, gossiping and bitching about you behind your own back.

I get the government is not proactive enough but at some point, you need to leverage whatever situation your in now to better yourself. Plus there are a ton of resources to help you like LL.

This is the aggressive mentality you should adopt.

Most people should Get Lost. Outta of your life. That includes school friends, friends from uni, work or family members that don’t support you or share your vision.

Most of us want to arrive somewhere in our life. We don’t want to waste valuable time with people who deep down be envious of us if we succeed. With this mentality, you’ll never put yourself in any “toxic group” of people that invite you out to pointless events.

Taking this aggressive mentality is incredibly liberating and powerful.  

You’ll make more money than you ever dream off just by association with those similar to your journey.

 It will also give you more peace and a stronger sense of alignment, because you’re no longer questioning your integrity or getting dragged into emotional drama. Instead, you stay centred, productive, and in control of your path.

It will also screen you out of 99% of all social groups by time wasters or people who quietly hope you never succeed.  

That’s precisely what you want to happen.

I am more than happy to spend Saturday night alone, working on my goals than to waste another evening drifting through mundane conversations and empty interactions.  

So its really a win – win once you internalize this attitude.

Greatness demands focus.

And focus require courage.

Choose the path that elevates you.

The unfortunate truth is, most people are average because they been surrounded by mediocre people their entire lives. Their first experience of mediocrity people are their parents.

Parents may want the best for you, but wanting the best isn’t the same as being the best you can be. Unless they were high-performing individuals - who faced their fears, built strong habits, carried real self-respect - they likely weren’t able to raise you into reaching your fullest potential. I’ll talk about parents invertedly condition you to be average in another post. 

Letting go of old friends who no longer support you doesn’t make you bad. In fact, it is also a sign of very fragile ego. The goal is for you to reach your highest potential along with people who are on that same journey. There are absolutely people out there who are on the same mission. They are unconsciously looking for you, just as you are looking for them.

This may be something your not used to, especially if your a people pleaser. I will create a solution for this antidote in the future.

The serious don’t care about upsetting people they do not want to hang with. They seen the detriment of what its like to be pull into pointless groups of so-called friends that aren’t really friends. The serious moves differently. They’re focused. They’re intentional. They are on a mission.

This may be one of the hardest challenges you’ll ever face, but it’s absolutely necessary if you want to reach the next level. I made this mistake several times in my 20s. When I finally realise my school friends were holding me back, I subconsciously seek out new groups who were, unfortunately, just as detrimental in other ways. Hanging around non-supportive friends or negative people who refuse to fix their own lives with easily become your biggest downfall.

 Part of it came from having parents who also hang around dead weights and never took the time to overcome their own emotional baggage. They never elevated themselves to a higher standard. Thus, I never received that education. I also never grew up with older siblings as a only raised child and had to figure out everything myself. This drawback prevented me years of slow progress of caught up in useless drama, confused by so-called friend’s behaviour and toxicity. It resulted in a very mundane and non-success in every area of my life. It took a lot of work but I faced the truth – my so called “friends” who I thought would be with me forever, I had to let go. Nowadays, I have killer instinct who to be around and who not to. I have a aggressive mentality in screening out the shitty people and attracting the positive ones. This includes romantic relationships.

“Your Either with Me or Get Lost,” doesn’t mean you should be a arsehole and not be emotionally unavailable to those may need your shoulder to lean on. It means you are not anybody’s emotional pothole and you do not hang around with time wasters. Everyone around you need to be taking full responsibility for their own shit, including you and myself also.

What does it look like?

It means – when you meet someone – you should avoid boring generic topics and slow-burning fake friendships where they contact you and invite you out to pointless hangouts. (you don’t have time for “hangouts”). Instead, take the lead by stating what your mission is about – which is to get shit done and elevating yourself to the next level – give off that vibe and be unapologetic about it - while also seeing how the person responds.

Watch how the person responds to your vibe. —not to your small talk, but to your purpose.

Their reaction will tell you everything you need to know about whether they belong in your orbit or not.

Generic small talk is necessary amongst colleagues or current roommates or unavoidable family members. The overall goal is not to lose yourself in senseless discussions for too long.

They are lame for not improving their life. Not you. They can get lost. 

They are lame for always blaming everyone else in his/her life but never themselves. Not you. That person can get lost. 

They are lame for having low ambition and scrolling 5 hours each day. Not you. They can get lost. 

This attitude will take time to feel natural – and will occasionally come across as arrogant or rude – unfortunately, that’s unavoidable. The truth is, you are becoming serious about your life.

If you start lose friends, then so be it. They weren’t your friends to be begin with.

If you find yourself alone, recognise it’s actually a blessing. You can finally start to work on yourself in solitude without the noise. I’ll talk more about how being alone is actually a superpower next time.

At worst, this phase is temporary.

What isn’t temporary is the regret of reaching 80 and realising you lived your life for the comfort of others instead of your own potential.

In time, the right people will appear – and the wrong ones will naturally fall away.

If you have any questions or comments, definitely don’t hesitate to post below.

~ Your Either Me or Get Lost ~

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